Okay so here's the update on the present. After I had a total meltdown and Shaun started his period, he was like oops, I was just seeing if maybe you had changed your mind about it by now. Bish, how about I present you with a pet snake and say I was just seeing if you changed your mind about your worst fear. Okay, anyway, so Shaun has an appointment on Thursday to meet with our gynecologist about getting a hysterectomy. He has had a lot of symptoms of severe hormonal imbalance for years (yeah, let's add another to the mix, shall we?) and major pain and swelling issues, which are getting worse. He has refused therapy and antidepressants due to the side effects, so hopefully a hysterectomy will fix some things. I'm not really holding my breath but I'm hopeful wishing. He says he no longer wants testosterone and was just having a "little freak out" but I cannot imagine he would actually bring that to the table, knowing how i feel about it, without being totally serious or seriously stupid. I mean... seriously. We shall see what transpires.
On another somewhat related note, I had read from my lovely LJ friend about her husband and her having separate bedrooms and how it's great to have their own space to retreat to. I have another couple of friends who do that as well and both have had happy long term marriages so I decided to suggest it. We have been doing it a few weeks and actually Shaun has been a lot nicer since then. He likes the room cold with air blowing on him and a tv in the room. I hate cold air blowing on me and I don't like having a tv in the room. It's also crowded with 2 of us and 4 cats on a queen bed. So far he says he's been getting amazing sleep which hasn't happened in forever and it's been beneficial for us. We spend time with each other before going to sleep and then go to our respective beds. We've slept together a few times since then and it actually kind of sucks. I like having space and being able to move around. He now has 3 fans blowing on him and a tv going in the background and loves it. That works out a lot better than the last time I was married and having problems and suggested polyamory. Haha! In case you wondered, it didn't fix my marriage.
So, on a totally unrelated note, I have to share my dog drama. Last NYE, I was driving home down the back country roads and there was something in the road that I nearly hit. It took me a minute to figure out it was a very tiny dog! I ended up following this little dog that was running down the middle of the road for about a half mile. It finally stopped and ended up hiding under my car in a very precarious spot at the bottom of a hill. It was a little Yorkshire Terrier that was terrified and very snappy. I few people tried to help me but this dog needed finesse. Two ladies ended up helping me get her out from under my car. One was a vet tech and man, she was like the dog whisperer! She was in scrubs and on her way to work so I let her take the dog. It took us about a half an hour of laying on the road and carefull circling the dog with a blanket and pulling the edges around her with a stick and then slowly pulling her out. It was hard but we did it! I had posted about it on our local lost pets facebook page and then had to let it go. I forgot to get any info about the woman except her first name and the type of job she worked in. Then, a few days ago, on my way home from work, I see a lost dog sign that has this dog's picture on it!! I called the number and talked to the lady who said she still had not found her dog. I told her what little info I had and felt horrible for not getting more information. The more people who replied to me on my post to the facebook page, the more I was wondering about what kind of place the dog came from and how I never really had any more claim on that dog than anyone else. I handed it over to the person who seemed the most qualified and that person was the only person I actually met out of all the people involved and I felt good about her as a person and about her dog skills. I got a tip from a woman I didn't know through private messaging that she thought she knew who had the dog and gave me a screen shot. I looked over the profile and figured out, that was her! I found the woman who had her! I tried calling her work but they were already closed. Then I decided to call the owner but no one answered and a recording said, "This person has not set up a voice mailbox yet". Oops, red flags! That was weird! I talked to the admin of the lost pets group about it. She said she needed to sleep a bit but to tag her in the discussion so she could read it later. I put my name in the search and up pops this post from 2 months ago of that lost dog poster! I just happened to post a comment under it 2 months ago giving a suggestion! What are the odds?! I recognized the poster that I saw in the road and the phone number but I had never seen that poster before a few days ago. So weird! I was freaking out about it and decided to look through the owner's profile. Turns out, she's a breeder. She breeds and sells yorkies online. See, here's where the line gets gray. I really fucking hate breeders. I'm sure she's a nice lady and all but I fucking haaaaaaate breeders and I know that breeding those tiny dogs is also dangerous for them and she lost 2 female dogs the same day. HRMMMMMMM!!!! So I was in a dilemma. Now that I know the name of the owner and the name of the person who has the dog, do I exchange information or just quietly push it under the rug? Do I give the lady her property (like it's just furniture) to be forced to breed or be sold to some stranger or do I let the dog stay with a person who's amazing with dogs and maaayyyybe get sold? It's a hard choice but I decided to just let it roll. I gave the owner a few leads already so if she really wanted to find out she probably could... maybe. Or, I could look at this as a rescue from a life of slavery for some bitch that wants to make money. I looked up her breeder site and she had one dog on there for $3400!!! I mean, REALLY? If your dogs are worth that much, why aren't they fucking chipped? That I will never understand about people. There are a lot of people with purebreeds they spend a fortune on and never chip. Totally bizarre! I did discuss this with the lady who moderates the page and she agreed with me. We bury it. She started posting a bunch of posts about pets to make it go away. I really hope I get to hear the end of this story at some point.... a happy ending hopefully.
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