Married vs. REALLY Married

This subject has been swirling around in my head for some time now.  It's sort of confusing in my brain because when it happened I totally expected it, yet I was shocked at just how many people, including other LGBT people were so clueless... not even conscious of their own thinking!  I'm talking about the response I got when Shaun and I got legally married in New Mexico.  We had scores of people congratulating us as newlyweds.  Yes, I can see your bewilderment at this right now... How about if I told you we got married 3 years ago, by a licensed clergy person, but it happened to be in Texas?  Well these people all knew about that, yet they treated this New Mexico thing as if we were just newly married.  I mean, really?  How can so many people be so weak-minded and brain washed to allow a bunch of crotchety bigots that don't know them to define when their marriage is real?  I bet they haven't even thought about it that far!  We have been married for over 3 years now.  Yes!  REALLY married!  We had a ceremony with a licensed clergy person... 2 actually, and we said our vows and exchanged rings and we were married!  The New Mexico thing was purely for the legal connection.  That was Magical-Piece-of-Paper Day, NOT my wedding day!  I mean I appreciate the sentiments but when all those scores of people referred to me as a newlywed last February, they totally invalidated the last 3 years of my life's dedication to my partner.  NOT COOL!  You may now slap yourself across the back of the head.  Yes, right now!  Please and thank you!